Friday, December 28, 2012

Black Christmas

The holidays are supposed to be a time of joyfulness, but instead, it turns out that this year's are sure to be remembered for being that of sadness. The day itself, for me at least, went fine, but it is what happened before and after that has caused such grief.

First off, on Christmas Eve, one of my good friends lost her mother. She has been down sick for quite some time, but took a turn for the worst earlier this month. From my understanding, though, she went quietly. The night before she was even barking out orders for Christmas gumbo, whatever that is.

Another death really has shaken me up. The day after Christmas, I lost a classmate that I graduated with. She had no signs of sickness, but she was admitted to the hospital for abdominal pain. The doctors elected to admit her into emergency surgery, where they learned her baby was stuck in her Fallopian tube and couldn't stop the bleeding. So, really there two lives lost that day.

In my nearly three and a half decades on this planet, I have seen people come and go, mourning for relatives, friends of friends, and celebrities. Only once has someone I went to school with passed away, and she was actually younger than me, with a long history of medical problems.

Knowing that someone who is my age has now left this world really saddens me, especially since she and I were relatively close at one time. It was a love/hate relationship for quite some time (I was dating her sister). She will be missed, and I regret that we didn't keep in better contact, even with Myspace, Facebook, and e-mail that have all come about since we graduated, back in the dark ages.

Now, you all know me, I'm not one to dwell on sadness. Life is too short for that. Personally, when I die, I don't want a sad funeral of any type, but rather a celebration of my life, filled with upbeat music, lots of food, and good friends and family.

Apparently, I'm not the only one who thinks this is the better way to go, as both of these women will be having the same kind of ceremonies in lieu of actual funerals. Isn't that great? Not to mention, much better than sitting around in a stuffy old church or funeral home being depressed.

Well, that's all I have for now! Thanks for reading!!!


Sara said...

Sorry you had a crappy xmas. Hopefully things will look up in 2013! Glad you are still here.

Mystery Man said...

It's alright. I'm not letting it get me down. Glad you're back! Alwasy a plus to have someone (semi)local to talk to in the blogging

Lin said...

Oh, gees, that is some sad news. I'm sorry for your loss. I think it is especially sad when you lose someone your age...for you feel just a wee bit vulnerable, don't you? I lost a former classmate this week--and while we were not close, it sorta hit too close to home.

I hope you can find joy in your memories of your friends and not let your sadness overcome the celebration of their lives. I'm like you--I want a happy send-off and a light-hearted obituary.